Remaining pure while dating
Most people who live together before they get married don’t get married and those who do have a higher divorce rate. You’ve already agreed that this is not the biblical pattern and thus is not a healthy pattern. What you’re demonstrating, by the fact that you say, “I want to do this but we always fall back into the same pattern again” is the strong bonding nature of sexual relationships. Sex was designed to be a deep bonding experience between a husband and wife.What you’re experiencing is that deep bonding between the two of you even though you’re not married. However, if you’re going to develop a healthy dating relationship and make a wise decision about getting married or not getting married, you’re going to have to draw away from this obsession with the sexual part of the relationship.So spend at least as much time in prayer as you do in front of a mirror.
I think to work through that book would make wonderful dating experiences for you.
The more you get to know each other apart from sexual activity, the more you’ll be able to make a wise decision to marry or not to marry.
What makes matters worse is that I am currently four hours away at school and every time we see each after being apart a week or two (even when we have had full intentions of not being sexual) we end up falling into our old habits.
I have your book but was wondering what would be the best way to get out of this cycle and get right with God?
We know we are in the wrong and that God’s teaching tells us to be pure and wait till we are married.